How to Deal with a Breakup

 

Breakups are situations in life when a relationship comes to an end. Break ups can be mutual or one sided. In a mutual breakup both the parties fall out of love and decide to go their own separate ways. Mutual breakups occur when both the parties decide that they want different things in their lives or they mutually lost attraction towards each other or they have both started liking other people. All breakups are difficult, letting go of a person is painful. However, one sided break ups (i.e. if one of them is dumped) it is much harder. Such breakups occur if only one person decides to move on whereas the other person wants to stay in the relationship. It is especially problematic if there is cheating or a third person involved.  There is a lot of pain, emotional turmoil, helplessness, fear, loss of self-confidence and so on. Discussed below are some of the ways in which one can deal with a break up. 

   

1)      Tell yourself that this is indeed a very difficult time that you are going through emotionally. It is not easy at all. Even though the pain seems impossible, it will still get better with time.

2)      Set your own boundaries. How much of that person you would like to see on social media. How much contact you are willing to keep. If it is easier keep that person out of your sight. See less of them. Block them. It will provide a better space for you to move on.

3)      Stop looking for answers from your ex pa
rtner for every unanswered question in your mind. Chances are that you will not find any if you haven’t yet. It will leave you more broken and in doubt. Give yourself a closer, so that you can be at peace. Not all questions need to be answered right away.

4)      Try to stop reliving old moments, it is very hard, but stop looking at old pictures together. It will make the pain worse.

5)      If you are feeling low, cry it out. If you can’t stop thinking about the person take a few deep breaths. Tell yourself that it is normal to have thoughts about your partner. However, it is just about time, gradually the pain will disappear. Don’t tell yourself “I will not think about him/her” because that is not possible.

6)      Don’t Stalk. This will hinder your healing process. The more you stalk the longer it will take for you to move on. It will make you sadder.

7)      Focus on a new beginning. Tell yourself that better things are waiting for you. The faster you heal and move the better chances you will have of meeting someone better and well suited for you. Look at your past relationship as a learning experience.

8)      Don’t force yourself to date again or meet someone new immediately. Take your time to heal from the previous wounds.

9)      Think about the times when you were not in the relationship. What were the things that kept you happy and involved back then? Focus on the activities you had to let go because of a busy schedule. Do things that give you meaning and purpose in life. 

10   Take up new activities, learn new things, form new associations, meet new people give yourself opportunities to grow out of the past relationship. Spend time with the people you love. Grow and heal.

Breakups are a part of life. They are not life. Trust yourself and move on bravely.