How to not care how others think of you

How to not care how others think of you

It is natural for us to want to be liked and loved by the people around us. We all are developing to be different and unique individuals. We have our own opinion and style. People around us are not always going to be accepting and kind. That is the bitter truth. 

If we focus too much on being appreciated by everyone it is going to be very stressful, because it is next to impossible. When we desire it too much, we are going to hinder the growth of our authentic self. 

So how do you not care what others think? 

• Some people are going to dislike you and there is nothing you can do about it. There isn't a perfect world where one is liked by everybody.

• When people are being mean they are usually projecting. (They feel about you the way they feel about themselves)

• Trust few opinions only from trusted sources. Opinions that will help you grow and not make you restless.

• Be around people who are more accepting and admire your authentic self.

• You have one life, live it to the fullest and don't let how others think of you spoil another moment of your life.

Things to keep in mind before opening up to someone emotionally

Things to keep in mind before opening up to someone emotionally

We are social beings, we attach ourselves with other human beings to survive. We have a natural tendency to depend on others emotionally. There is a need to confide in people, discuss or plan situations, events or moments. 

However, we need to keep certain things in mind before we confide in someone or trust someone with our problems. Not only there is a  risk of confidentiality breach but if people do not receive the problem well, their reaction might affect us adversely. 

1. How well does the person deal with stressful situations? Is the person calm enough to understand the situation?

2. How non judgemental is the person's view of the world? Or do you find the person biased or critical.

3. How well can the person keep secrets? Does the person gossip about things that should not be  discussed?

4. How is the person doing right now emotionally? Is the person looking at things positively or he/she is going through their own distress?

Not everyone is at a place to help us at the moment. It is better to let the person heal before we ask them for advice. Till then we can find someone who is more emotionally capable to guide us at the moment.